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Friendship Obligations

Being extended an invitation for coffee or tea is always a nice gesture, a simple gesture, but it can mean so much. There’s something special about being invited out. It’s a way of saying, “Hey, I appreciate you” or “I’d like to spend some time with you.” 

Let’s admit it: whether it’s a cuppa joe at the local coffee shop or even a pastry or two, it feels good to be invited and treated! When we take the time to connect with friends over a simple cup of coffee or tea, we’re indicating that we value their company and our friendship. And it’s easiest when you invite and meet with just one friend at a time.

It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money; a Coffee ChainMeet is affordable. The treat is definitely nice, but the time spent together and the RealConnection are what matters most.

I know what you’re thinking. It’s the age-old question: Am I obligated?

If someone buys you coffee, are you obligated to buy them coffee in return? While there is no easy answer, I believe that being treated to coffee, or pizza or donuts, does not necessarily mean that you are obligated to reciprocate. If you find yourself unable to reciprocate, don’t let it guilt you. But if you are in a position to do so, and you want to reciprocate, then by all means, treat away! 

Treating to food or drink is the same as giving a gift. Giving and receiving gifts is a part of everyday social interactions. Whether it’s a simple act of kindness or an exchange between friends, gifts or treats help to show appreciation and build relationships. 

RECEIVING gifts show acceptance and affirmation of a friendly gesture. 

It’s important to consider the intention behind the treat. If someone only buys you coffee in order to get something in return, then, of course, you may want to think twice before accepting their offer. 

However, if someone buys you coffee because they genuinely want to do something nice for you, well, I’m here to tell you that it’s time to accept graciously and start saying yes! That is showing thanks as well as acceptance and affirmation of your friend.

Because when you think about it, what’s the harm in enjoying a cup of coffee with a friend? A ChainMeet is simply a kindness, an Intentional Act of Friendship. And who doesn’t need more kindness in their life? So next time someone extends an invitation for coffee or a beer, say yes and savor every sip. Because at the end of the day, that’s what RealFriendship is all about.

There’s no obligation attached. But I hope there is a sense of reciprocity to link your friendship forward, to go and do likewise for another ValuedFriend.

Because at the end of the day, RFs treat and inspire VFs; and that is what ChainMeet is all about.

Now go and Inspire Forward!

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